LGBTQ 30 Day Challenge: Day 24

9 07 2011

Day 24: The stupidest argument/comment you’ve heard about gay people or an LGBT issue?

There are so many ridiculous arguments, it’s hard to choose! I guess I’ll list a few:

“Gay people shouldn’t raise children because their kids will be gay.”

Yeah, that makes sense because all straight couples have straight children.

“If gay people get married, it will open the door for people to marry animals!”

A Taiwanese man married a barbie doll in 1999.  The first country to allow same-sex marriage was The Netherlands…in 2001. Crazy people are going to try crazy things.  Period. Point. Blank.

“All gay people are possessed by gay demons!”

Yes, I’ve really heard that one.  And I don’t have a snide remark for it.  It just sounds ridiculous.

I feel like I hear these ridiculous statements all the time, but these are the ones I remember most.  Someday soon, hopefully we can all look back and laugh at how insane people sounded. 


LGBTQ 30 Day Challenge: Day 19

29 06 2011

Day 19: Butch or Femme?

This is a loaded question and one I have issue with. Who defines what is butch? or femme? I don’t necessarily think these labels are bad things, as labels go, but I think we try to stick to them to rigidly.

Personally, I’d say I’m attracted to people on the more butch end of the scale. I like masculine men. That said, someone who is attracted to more feminine men aren’t any less of a man, they just have different preferences. And as far as my own personality and mannerisms, I’m pretty middle of the road, probably leaning to the butch side a bit. I like to fix and build things, can change a tire and the oil in a car, do some minor construction, but at the same time, I like fashion (looking at it, not so much knowing a lot), music, photography, design. For some, that makes me too femme, even if I don’t identify that way.

I think labels are useful in some ways. As human beings, we need to be able to categorize things to understand them. But we try to cling to these labels, that are often binary, and when things don’t fit neatly into one or the other, we aren’t quite sure what to do. I think that’s something we need to work on as a society. We need to learn that gender and sexuality are binary. And that’s there’s nothing wrong with that.

LGBTQ 30 Day Challenge: Day 16

26 06 2011

Day 16: A picture forMy Ex your first LGBT relationship or your first LGBT crush?

This is my ex, Jason. He was the first truly long term relationship I ever had.  And only, really, at this point.  It took me such a long time to be comfortable with my sexuality that I didn’t start dating until I was 22 and my earlier relationships either fizzled out quickly or something drastic happened…like Adam, who moved to NYC overnight without telling me.  We ended things on really good terms and both just realized that we were better as friends than partners.  The only picture I can find of us together, I hate because I look awful, so I used this one.  He’s a great guy and I wish him well.

Me ex