LGBTQ 30 Day Challenge: Day 24

9 07 2011

Day 24: The stupidest argument/comment you’ve heard about gay people or an LGBT issue?

There are so many ridiculous arguments, it’s hard to choose! I guess I’ll list a few:

“Gay people shouldn’t raise children because their kids will be gay.”

Yeah, that makes sense because all straight couples have straight children.

“If gay people get married, it will open the door for people to marry animals!”

A Taiwanese man married a barbie doll in 1999.  The first country to allow same-sex marriage was The Netherlands…in 2001. Crazy people are going to try crazy things.  Period. Point. Blank.

“All gay people are possessed by gay demons!”

Yes, I’ve really heard that one.  And I don’t have a snide remark for it.  It just sounds ridiculous.

I feel like I hear these ridiculous statements all the time, but these are the ones I remember most.  Someday soon, hopefully we can all look back and laugh at how insane people sounded. 





LGBTQ 30 Day Challenge: Day 23

8 07 2011

Day 23: An LGBT image that makes you cry or makes you angry?

I don’t really think this needs much explanation.  It just makes me so sad to see that the anger and hatred I had hoped would die with my grandparents’ generation is still alive and well in America.





LGBTQ 30 Day Challenge: Day 22

6 07 2011

Day 22: An LGBT image that makes you smile.

Dads

I can’t even begin to describe how much I want to be a dad. 





Sister Wives

6 06 2011

I’ve watched “Sister Wives” several times and I always have mixed emotions about the idea of polygamy. It’s not for me, I know. I’m hardwired as a monogamist. But, just like I don’t think it’s fair that the government says I can’t marry another man, I don’t think it’s air for the government to legislate how many people can get married. And in my opinion, you can’t have it both ways. If you’re for marriage equality, you should truly be for MARRIAGE EQUALITY across the board. However, to cut off any craziness that might ensue from that statement, all parties should be of legal, consenting adult age and be able to verbalize. No children, no animals. That’s just ridiculous.

Anyway, on a base level, I’m totally ok with it, assuming that all parties involved know exactly what they’re getting into. No forcing a daughter to marry into a polygamous marriage, no wives/husbands in different states that don’t know about each other, none of that. Everyone needs 100% disclosure up front. If everyone is on the same page, go for it.

But I can’t imagine being with multiple people at the same time…or, ya know, separately. I’m not in favor of open relationship for myself, but again, if everyone involved is ok with it, by all means have fun. I’m not a jealous person, but I think if I knew my significant other was with other people, that might change. I know that polygamy isn’t the same as an open relationship in that all partners know each other and usually don’t engage in sexual behaviors together. But it would still be weird for me.

I do like the idea of having multiple parental units to raise kids, though. How great would that be? It takes a village to raise a child, right? But it would have to be hard on the kids, too. If you homeschool, they’re likely to be socially awkward. Although, with that many kids, maybe not. But the Duggers are… Anyway, but if they go to school, they either have to keep it quiet or face potential torment from peers.

However you look at it, love is love, but polygamy is definitely something to seriously consider before diving in. I can’t help but wonder if even serious contemplation could truly prepare a person for that life.





Oh, Mother

8 05 2011

Mother’s Day is here again and every year it passes, I realize just how lucky I am to have such an awesome mom. She’s stuck with me through thick and thin, through acting out and coming out, despite her devout Southern Baptist beliefs. But I also realize how many people aren’t as lucky as I am.

I was talking to Drew, my best friend’s boyfriend, yesterday and all of this came into an even clearer focus. I made my mom a CD for mother’s day and designed a CD jacket to go with it that contained a little bit about why I included each song and the lyrics to each song. I was excited about it and asking opinions. We started talking about how much our friend Joe’s mom, Aunt Ramona, has done for us here and how in so many ways, she has become our surrogate mom. As we were talking, Drew expressed that appreciated everything Aunt Ramona did for us and that he had some pangs of jealousy and resentment when Jason, my best friend/his boyfriend, got birthday presents form his mom. Drew didn’t get so much as a text from his mother on his birthday. He’s tried and tried to keep the lines of communication open, but his mom just doesn’t seem to care. It’s so sad. And all because of his sexual orientation. It’s just not acceptable. And I know he’s not alone.

So, on this day we celebrate our moms, be thankful for the good ones in our lives, biological or not, here with us or watching over from above, and know that if you’ve known the true love of a mother, you are indeed one of the blessed.