LGBTQ 30 Day Challenge: Day 30

24 07 2011

Day 30: Anything LGBT you’d like to end this on?

So many thoughts are running through my head. I’ve come so far from where I was 10 years ago. I couldn’t even say “I’m gay” in my head at that age. All that I ever remember thinking about was how/when to end everything if thoughts of sexuality even entered my mind. I prayed EVERY DAY for God to make me “normal.” Needless to say, it didn’t work. But I came through it. I’m ok.

Don’t get me wrong, I still have a long way to go. I struggle with issues of masculinity, identity, dating, self-confidence, but I’m leaps and bounds ahead of even 3 years ago. Life is a struggle every day, but I’ll make it. I’ll figure it out.

This 30 day challenge has inspired me to record an “It Gets Better” video. It’s something I’ve been thinking about for a while, but now it’s something I feel like I need to do. Look for it to be coming soon.


LGBTQ 30 Day Challenge: Day 25

11 07 2011

Day 25: The LGBT slur you hate the most?

“Fag.” Unquestionably. I can’t STAND that word. It irks me to no end when I hear it. I heard it used so derogatorily as a kid so often, that it literally makes my skin crawl. I tried at one point to “take it back” and use it, but I just couldn’t do it for long. It’s just so hurtful to me for some reason. It definitely doesn’t bother me like it did when I was a kid, but I still just don’t like it.

LGBTQ 30 Day Challenge: Day 24

9 07 2011

Day 24: The stupidest argument/comment you’ve heard about gay people or an LGBT issue?

There are so many ridiculous arguments, it’s hard to choose! I guess I’ll list a few:

“Gay people shouldn’t raise children because their kids will be gay.”

Yeah, that makes sense because all straight couples have straight children.

“If gay people get married, it will open the door for people to marry animals!”

A Taiwanese man married a barbie doll in 1999.  The first country to allow same-sex marriage was The Netherlands…in 2001. Crazy people are going to try crazy things.  Period. Point. Blank.

“All gay people are possessed by gay demons!”

Yes, I’ve really heard that one.  And I don’t have a snide remark for it.  It just sounds ridiculous.

I feel like I hear these ridiculous statements all the time, but these are the ones I remember most.  Someday soon, hopefully we can all look back and laugh at how insane people sounded. 

LGBTQ 30 Day Challenge: Day 23

8 07 2011

Day 23: An LGBT image that makes you cry or makes you angry?

I don’t really think this needs much explanation.  It just makes me so sad to see that the anger and hatred I had hoped would die with my grandparents’ generation is still alive and well in America.

Sister Wives

6 06 2011

I’ve watched “Sister Wives” several times and I always have mixed emotions about the idea of polygamy. It’s not for me, I know. I’m hardwired as a monogamist. But, just like I don’t think it’s fair that the government says I can’t marry another man, I don’t think it’s air for the government to legislate how many people can get married. And in my opinion, you can’t have it both ways. If you’re for marriage equality, you should truly be for MARRIAGE EQUALITY across the board. However, to cut off any craziness that might ensue from that statement, all parties should be of legal, consenting adult age and be able to verbalize. No children, no animals. That’s just ridiculous.

Anyway, on a base level, I’m totally ok with it, assuming that all parties involved know exactly what they’re getting into. No forcing a daughter to marry into a polygamous marriage, no wives/husbands in different states that don’t know about each other, none of that. Everyone needs 100% disclosure up front. If everyone is on the same page, go for it.

But I can’t imagine being with multiple people at the same time…or, ya know, separately. I’m not in favor of open relationship for myself, but again, if everyone involved is ok with it, by all means have fun. I’m not a jealous person, but I think if I knew my significant other was with other people, that might change. I know that polygamy isn’t the same as an open relationship in that all partners know each other and usually don’t engage in sexual behaviors together. But it would still be weird for me.

I do like the idea of having multiple parental units to raise kids, though. How great would that be? It takes a village to raise a child, right? But it would have to be hard on the kids, too. If you homeschool, they’re likely to be socially awkward. Although, with that many kids, maybe not. But the Duggers are… Anyway, but if they go to school, they either have to keep it quiet or face potential torment from peers.

However you look at it, love is love, but polygamy is definitely something to seriously consider before diving in. I can’t help but wonder if even serious contemplation could truly prepare a person for that life.


25 01 2011

I’ve been watching the UK Series, Skins for quite a while now. It’s a great show. It can be a bit racy, but it’s about teenagers, what do you expect? Last week, a US version premiered on MTV, much to the chagrin of the political Right, apparently. I think it’s ridiculous. Now, I haven’t seen the 2nd episode yet, but the pilot was very good. It reminds me a lot of my time in high school…which is what I think the problem is. People act they were complete angels in high school. They don’t like to be reminded that acted a fool, made some bad choices, partied too much. And, even worse, they don’t want to think of their own children doing the same thing.

A co-worker of mine, who typically falls on the left side of the aisle, Is appalled by the show…though I seriously doubt he’s ever seen an episode. He had a similar reaction when Katy Perry was to appear on Sesame Street. I’m sorry, but when’s the last time a toddler saw some cleavage and thought about sex? But I’m getting off track.

The biggest problem people espouse to have is that they’re using real teenagers to play the characters, as opposed to the 20-somethings that normally fill those roles. I like it. I think there’s something raw about it. And real. These kids aren’t remembering what high school was like: they’re living it.

This isn’t the 1950’s. Even then, people were having sex in high school and smoking pot. But the show isn’t “condoning it” as I’ve been told it is. It’s simply stating a fact. I think my boss and co-worker were a bit surprised when I told them that t reminded me so much of my time in high school. People having sex, popping pills, smoking pot, partying, sneaking home the next morning, suicide, overdoses; those were just facts of life. I didn’t go to some white-bread suburban school. I experienced the real world at a young age. Were mistakes made? Of course. But you live and you learn.

Now, apparently, the producers are being charged with child porn? Other than a few kisses and some oh-so-scandalous shoulders, there was nothing remotely porn like about the first episode. The 2nd episode might prove a bit different, but I’m just not sure.

Another reason I think people are having so many problems is our cultural climate. I mean, come on, our country was founded by a bunch of prudes who thought Europe was having too much fun to make God happy. But things change. I’m hesitant to call anything on MTV art anymore, but this show has potential if it lives up to its UK counterpart. Hell, I’ve seen British TV movies that showed rape and what would be considered softcore porn in this country.

This whole thing has gotten way out of control, as far as I’m concerned. I’ll watch the seond episode once it’s online and may have more to say, but so far, my thoughts are that if you don’t like it, change the damn channel.